The Reflector Child

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Reflectors are rare. They’re approximately 1% of the human population, but still, that’s many tens of millions of them in the world. That’s a lot of children. And they are different. And one of the things that makes them so different is that because, or since, each and every one of the centers they have is undefined, there are three centers that really, really determine what’s necessary in order to be able to help them in this life. All Reflectors have open head centers and open root centers. These are the two pressure centers in the vehicle, and it means that Reflector children feel an enormous amount of pressure from the moment they come into the world, truly an enormous amount of pressure. And it’s one of the most important things for parents of Reflector children to recognize - these are not children that you can put under pressure! Don’t put them under pressure in terms of when they walk, when they talk, when they read, when they socialize, when they do. It not only will not help, but it truly is detrimental to them, because it means that their not-self strategies of their head center and their root center will dominate their lives. In other words, put them under pressure, and they will race to get through it in order to have it done, and they will exhaust themselves. Put them under pressure and they’ll think themselves into a black hole, trying to figure things out that aren’t important for them to figure out. They’re different. And at the core of this difference is the uniform open G center of all Reflectors.

The G center is really a gravitational center in the sense that it is through the monopole in the G center that we’re held together in this illusion that we call ourselves. And more than that, that we’re moved along our line of geometry. And everything about the G center is about direction and love. To be in the right place is to experience love. If one is not in the right place, one cannot experience love. To be in the right place is to be with the right people. Place, place, this is of enormous importance in the development of the Reflector child. It also is of value to recognize in any child that has an open G center how important place is. And place is many things. It’s where they sleep or where their room is in the family home. Where their community is in the city or area that they live in, what country – it goes on and on and on. Place means everything for the Reflector child. You can treat a Manifestor child with respect by teaching it how to ask permission and then not unreasonably denying it. You can teach a Generator child respect by simply asking it. You can show your respect for the Projector child by formally offering invitations. But respect for the Reflector child often brings a great risk to its parents. And that respect is making sure that that child is happy where they are. If they don’t like their room, redecorating is probably not the answer. It’s probably about shifting to another room. “Do you like this better?” And remember something about the Reflector child, that they cannot make a decision quickly. That’s why they can never be placed under pressure. It takes them a long time. When you ask a Generator child what it wants for Christmas, you can ask it on Christmas Eve. But when you ask a Reflector child, it better be at least a month in advance so they have time to process it, not to be under pressure. Reflectors under pressure literally fall apart. So remember if you love your Reflector child make sure that as soon as it can tell you, you find out whether it feels that it’s in the right place. Then it will be with the right people, and it will find the love that it needs. To be the parent of a Reflector in the wrong place is truly to lose the opportunity of the deepest kind of love with your child.